A TRUE relationship teaches both parties about how their traumas influence their actions // The arguments and misunderstandings all stemming from individual insecurities and specific traumas that both parties are completely ignoring and in some cases unaware of // This is the crux of misunderstanding // When you can truly understand your own trauma and don't shy away from it, helping and supporting someone else while they figure out their own isn't as tumultuous // You are secure in knowing that they will one day remember all of their joy and pain is born from within them and can purely give them all your love, devoid of egotistic games. If not, you're two walls of confusion bashing up against each other, hurting each other for no reason, relationships are bruised very badly when one (or both) of the parties trauma is ignored and met with anger or negative misunderstanding. Everyone just wants to be understood, everyone just wants to be loved, the loophole is that this desire is never going to be satiated by someone else. You have got to accept yourself completely.
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